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How to stand up to a bully and why

This week, Olivia Julianna stood up to a bully and won!
Applause all round for the eloquent and witty 19 year old showing how to treat misogynistic bullies trying to silence you by shaming you the easiest way they can think of.

Teenager 1 – bully 0!

What happened

Matt Gaetz, alleged pedophile and sex trafficker, insulted and body shamed Olivia Julianna, an abortion rights activist, as widely reported in the traditional and social media. Ms Julianna is currently 19 years of age which she used in her retort after Gaetz tried to bully her a second time:

Who is Matt Gaetz?

He is the son of rich parents, a full out Trumpist (who sought a preemptive pardon from Trump last year) and member of the GOP whose brand is based on stirring up trouble.

Gaetz is still under investigation for sex with an underage girl. He recently voted AGAINST sex trafficking legislation AGAIN. Who knew!

Gaetz is a bully and a coward. He still has not had the courage to get back to Julianna himself. Make of that what you will.

Why is it important to stand up to a bully?

The most important reason to stand up to a bully is to call out their behavior. They may not stop with the behavior or may even become vindictive. However, often, they will stop because they never had any push back (Is Gaetz one of those cases? It appears so.)

When calling out bad behavior, others (including bystanders) will take note. It will give them an example that standing up for yourself is possible and (in some cases like here) leads to positive outcomes. This increases the chances that in a similar situation, the next person will speak out and hold their own.

Last but not least, it gives you self-esteem. You know that you did the right thing in calling out bad behavior.

If you can use humor and also maintain the moral high ground, perfect!

What was the outcome for Olivia Julianna?

Julianna used the newly found limelight to fund raise for abortion rights. By now, over US$1.8 were raised!!

Additionally, Julianna has been interviewed by prime time national television stations (starts at 12 minutes 50 seconds in) and newspapers, received messages from political figures including Hillary Clinton and met with many others in person such as Beto O’Rourke. She now is a public figure to be reckoned with.

If you want to support Julianna, then head over to GenZforChange and contribute to a better future for everyone. This fund splits all donations evenly among 50 local abortion funds across the United States.

Following this fantastic story and continued activism of Olivia Julianna, I wonder how much better life would be if we all stand up for ourselves a bit more often. Speak up when an injustice is done. Call out when we see or experience bullying.

What will you stand up for?

Celebrate this Sunday the monumental Loving Day

On 12 June every year, people celebrate Loving Day in the USA. It marks the outcome of the 1967 landmark case “Loving versus Virginia“. With it, laws against interracial marriage and relations were ruled unconstitutional across all of the USA.

Mildred and Richard Loving in 1967; source: Wikipedia

What an achievement!

Pat yourselves on the back and celebrate the achievement. Now get up again and keep the ruling alive. Yes, you heard me correctly. The ruling is in danger of being overturned. Similar to the Roe v. Wade debate, this ruling is in danger of being repealed. It may be a little further into the future, however, once women’s rights are taken way, black and brown people will be next, before other minorities will be oppressed.

The first signs of coming oppression are already with us. Gerrymandering and voter suppression are reality for many and so is police violence. Both disadvantage people of color. Changing the Loving v. Virginia ruling will take away your right to choose the person who you want to spend the rest of your life with. Further, it appears to me to be the first step towards legalizing segregation. Who knows were it will end. I don’t even want to speculate.

The Loving v. Virginia ruling is already being discussed at higher levels and GOP politicians seem to think that individual states should make the decisions themselves. Just like they did with Roe v. Wade which is in the process of being overturned. You can watch the tragedy unfold right in front of your eyes… if you dare to keep them open.

If you live outside of the USA, you would be forgiven to think that this has no impact on your life. Think again. Looking back over history, the rise of fascism in one country often encouraged similar trends in other countries. I’m thinking of the outcome of the recent elections in Hungary followed by increased emergency powers for Viktor Orban for example or the last Brazilian presidential elections in 2018.

So, what can we do to keep our freedom?

It is the same routine as always: register to vote, then go and vote the GOP out of office.

You should also phone your representative and tell them to keep the law, so that they understand how important it is.

Alternatively, you can move to a more liberal country if this option is open to you.

It is up to you how you want to move forward: keep your freedoms and vote for them – OR – loose them.

Choose wisely!

Get out! Your life may depend on it…

I grew up in a place with few good job opportunities and if you were a woman, there were practically none. I used to joke that the only options for a woman are to either become a dependent of some husband or other for all of eternity or to become a nun or to leave. So I left.

As it turns out, all of my friends I met along the way were in similar situations. For one reason or another, they had to leave. The reasons sound all too familiar: lack of opportunity, poverty, sexism, racism or any other garden variety persecution.

Sidenote: Did you know that passports as we know them have only been in existence for a little over 100 years?

Watching the news and looking around me, I feel that many places fall back into a hole that resembles the places where my friends have come from: war in Ukraine; misogyny, racism and a broken democracy in the United States of America; over 70% inflation in Argentina; genocide in China; oppression in Russia… the list goes on. People are in danger.

If I lived in any of these countries, I’d be on my way out – and I understand that this is a big task. Some countries don’t allow their citizens to leave. You read correctly: you are locked up inside your own country. The country simply does not give you an “exit visa” and you can’t leave. After all, you “belong” to the country just like a slave belongs to the slave owner. Other people are already fleeing a war zone as refugees, in which case I’d suggest you keep going and I wish you all the best.

For all others who live in a country headed towards dictatorship, I recommend you work towards a way out. Even small actions matter to ensure you have a chance to live a long, happy and fulfilling life.

So let’s look at what’s needed.

For starters, if you are young enough then you may get visas based on age. There are plenty of countries who are willing to let you in – at least temporarily – if you are young and can contribute to their society. Check visa options for your favorite destinations and see what they can offer and apply. If you don’t apply, it will never happen. What do you have to lose? Or better: What do you have to gain?

Next, I’d always suggest getting educated to a level where it is easier to move to another country. Many visa processes look at how you would fit into their system. One factor which will give you “brownie points” to entry is education. The thinking is that higher education equates to more contribution to GDP. Again, check visa options for places you’d like to live in. You may even find that you are eligible for a student visa. Give it a go and see what happens.

Keep in mind that education is not limited to ivy league establishments. It can cover everything including apprenticeships, online learning and even experiences you gain when volunteering. Every action you take to learn more will help you in the long run.

Of course, if you already have a job, especially in international organizations, you could work towards being moved to another country. I’ve worked with expats and most were grateful for the opportunities.

Sometimes you don’t even need to change countries. Sometimes it’s enough to move to another region or state. For example in the USA or Switzerland, each region / state can have (some) different rules. Could that work for you?

I hope you can see the thinking of countries: if they can get something out of you and if you make it easy for them to see that, then they are more likely to let you in. So, please, make it easy for them to see you as a benefit to their country.

Alternatively, Forbes suggests that you can buy citizenship in a country and live there. If you are lucky enough to have the funds, good on you. If not, then Forbes also has an article on an Italian village paying you to move there. Over the last few years, some countries, such as Italy, have come up with ideas to attract people so that their rural communities can survive. Look around online and find your perfect location in the sun.

Whatever may happen, if the rules in your place don’t suit you, then please do whatever it takes to stay safe. I’m thinking abortion, women’s and LGBTQ+ healthcare in the USA in particular. Please, think of your (existing or potential) children and also of yourself first and foremost! Think critically about where you want to live.

Go for it and get out!