Valentine’s day is upon us. Every year it’s the same dilemma, what to do about it? The answer often depends on whether one is in a relationship and whether “the current partner” wants to celebrate it or not.
My best friend from way back always used to say “men come and go” – even when her husband stood next to her. It took me a long time to realise that she may be true. Relationships come, start, peak, fizzle out or end abruptly. May it’s a new job that changes you whole world or your partner’s new hobby that doesn’t allow you space in their life. Whatever it may be, relationships come and go.
Having relationships end is not a bad thing either. It opens us up to new opportunities and the possibility for change. Think about it: if you only ever knew the people who were with you in kindergarten, how would your life look like today?
The same holds true for romantic relationships. There are a few lucky people who find “the one” and there are some more who are willing to “put in the effort”, but a lot of people simply stay single or in relationships because “that’s how it was yesterday” or “that’s how it was last year”.
Now think back to last year Valentine’s day. Has anything changed? If not, what would you want to change to make it an outstanding day? What would you keep the same?
If your situation has changed, a similar question is in order: what do you want to have in place (prepared) for the best Valentine’s day ever?
I would like you to think about what Valentine’s day really means for you. If you simply want a diamond laced watch from you partner, then be upfront and honest. If you rather contribute to world happiness in a small way by being happy yourself, then do that. I’m not your boss and can’t tell you what to do. Only you can know what you want for that day (and any other day for that matter).
Go and decide for yourself what small action would make this day memorable to you.
As for me, after work, I’ll be doing some yoga followed by a candle lit TV binge watch session with one glass of wine in my bathtub – because this is the height of luxury for me this year. Enjoy!